How Being A Stripper Made Me A Better Lover
Don’t knock strippers—there might be a thing or two you can learn from them!
Flipping through YourTango on this fine Friday morning, I came upon a great article from a fellow YT expert about 7 things you can learn from strippers. It was written from a guy’s point of view, and it absolutely paralleled my own personal experience as a stripper. Some of the YT readers didn’t really appreciate the article’s point of view, but I’d like to defend it.
I was a stripper for two years in my early 40’s (yes, I was like the grandmother of the club) and it was probably the most empowering experience of my life.
Not only was it personally empowering, but it greatly improved my sex life with my partner. Here’s how:
1. My self confidence went through the roof. I’d always been at least slightly uncomfortable being complimented on my appearance, but with men complimenting me on ALL parts of my body, I had to get used to it. I mean, really, who gets complimented about how cute her earlobes are?! This girl, apparently.
2. I learned how to dance. I’d been really self-conscious about dancing in public, after seeing myself dance at a rock club in the 80’s (think Elaine from Seinfeld. That was me and I’m not even exaggerating). If you can’t be comfortable dancing, you’re not likely to be comfortable having sex.