How to Deal with a Breakup During the Holidays
How could he dump you right before the happiest time of the year? Here’s how to cope.
He dumped you. Right before the happiest time of the year. How could he be so cruel, right?
Even though he’s decided that your holiday gift would be a huge slap in the face, there is something you can do about it. No, it’s not turning around to slap him back. It has to do with you and how you can take this opportunity to see the end of the year as a time to say good-bye to the old to get ready for the new. It IS the New Year, after all!
Putting the Past Away
When people break up, they often go back through the mementos they’ve collected over the course of the relationship. Old concert stubs, movie tickets, and letters are the most common items. This ritual brings back so many memories that most people end up in fetal position on the floor balling.
While this is okay to do, make it productive. Go through everything, but either place it in the trash or put it into a box to store away. The idea is to treat this time as a way to say good bye to the past by putting it away, so you can move on.
Smiling Through the Pain
It’s hard to feel as joyous as the holiday season wants you to be when your heart has been broken into two. While there’s no way to forget about the breakup, you can put your fake happy face on – at least around people. Moping around everyone won’t do anything but invite them to ask you what’s wrong, which then prompts you to talk about it, cry, and want to run away and hide in a hole. Putting a smile on your face puts you in control of that situation. In fact, there’s research that people who smile even through distress can help themselves feel better – talk about “faking it until you make it.”
More tips up next.