Though there are many people in the online dating world who are looking for commitment, you may also come across people known as “serial daters.” These are people who love the dating game but only for the thrill of the chase and the feeling of going on a new date.
They often date several people at once, or they just go on a couple of dates and move on. This can of course be hurtful if you’re looking for a long-term relationship, so it’s important to be able to spot this kind of behavior. Here’s how to tell if the person you’re dating is a serial dater:
They sent distant or delayed messages.
If tjey sometimes seem distant or are delayed in replying to your messages, it may be because they are talking with other people. It will be obvious if they are noncommittal in their replies, or if they take a day or two to respond, that they are not giving their full attention to you.
They confuse you with someone else!
If they are dating many people at once, they are likely to sometimes confuse you with other people they are speaking to. If they ask you how your day at the office was when you actually work from home, for example, this is when a warning light should go off. If when you correct them they get defensive, this is a sure sign they are trying to cover up.
They want to rush into things.
If they want to meet you straight away, and after meeting they want to get intimate just as fast, they’re not a safe bet. All they’re looking for is the excitement of somebody new and they’re likely to be gone in a second as soon as they’ve had their fun.
Similarly, if they rush the conversation and don’t really ask you questions about you or your life, it’s clear that they don’t really want to get to know you. Take yourself home pronto!
Of course serial daters are a minority in the world of online dating, but they do exist so it’s good to be aware of them. After all, if you’re looking for love and commitment, these people will just waste your time and potentially really hurt your feelings.
It helps to join dating websites that are geared towards people who are looking for a soul mate, such as eHarmony. These kinds of websites also match you to people who are compatible and with whom you are more likely to have a long-term relationship.
So remember, look out for those with good online dating conduct, who don’t rush you, and who seem genuinely interested in you and what you have to say.
Have you ever encountered a serial dater?
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