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Husband in Midlife Crisis
My husband is driving me crazy. He hates his job but won’t quit. He wants to play bass guitar in a rock-and-roll band, but he won’t pull a group together. He wants me to be with him all the time, but then he tells me I’m smothering him! All I want is for him to be happy – and a grown-up. Any advice?
– Middle-Aged Man’s Wife
Ah, the joys of midlife. My best advice? It’s his crisis – it doesn’t have to be yours. It sounds like your husband is facing one of those passages that he has to tackle “mano a mano.” So, womano, lovingly give him a ton of space. Figuratively pat him on the head and say, “I love you. You are a great man. I’ll be in the next room if you need me.” And go about living your best life. Sooner or later, he’ll figure the whole thing out and be the great guy you know and love. Or an even more fabulous man you can fall in love with all over again. And, in the meantime, you’ll be busy growing the part of your life that makes you happy.