What Would Debbie Do
I Let Fear Run My Life
Here goes. I’m a middle-aged woman who lets fear run her life. I don’t pursue my ex-husband for more child support because of my horrible past experience in court. I often don’t open mail because I’m afraid to deal with bills. I’m afraid to take my year-old son to a counselor because I’m afraid I’m going hear that he’s screwed up or that I’m doing a terrible job. I have tackled some fears and challenged myself; I just feel like it’s never going to get better. Any advice?
Dear Scaredy Cat,
You’re allowing fear to run your life, and as long as you do that, you will remain in the same place. It’s time to take action, face your fears and deal with your life in a way that puts you back in control and able to deal with whatever comes your way.
When there’s fear, there’s anxiety. It’s a crippling combination. It is my hope that you seek out support and help from someone you trust – be it a therapist or a friend. Running from invisible ghosts that you have created in your mind is no way to live. My favorite quote goes something like this: “Whether you think you can, or think you can not, you’re probably right.” The power to move through anything in life resides in your head. So move out the fear, take charge of your thoughts, identify the issues, take a deep breath and live your life, fearless and empowered. It’s time!