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I Want Him Back
Dear ASK REAL GUYS: I love this guy and he loves me, we are a perfect fit. Unfortunately I sent him away because I was having some problems and I refused to discuss it with him. Because of this, he now has a girlfriend whom he has cheated on – twice – with me. I have been feeling a lot better and I want to date him again, but I gave him false pretenses so that he wouldn’t keep pushing to be with me. Any ideas as to what I should do?
Steven: I am not sure what you mean by giving “him false pretenses.” It is also unclear to me as to why he has another girlfriend. If it is true that you love each other and are perfect for each other, then why does he not break up with her to be with you?
With that being said, there is an important aspect of this situation that needs to be considered. Since this guy has a girlfriend and has cheated on her – all be it with you, just realize that the probability is high that he may cheat on you as well. If you are like many, you (and he for that matter) will try to rationalize that this is a special circumstance; that he did it to you and won’t to others. However, there is a common saying that “history has a tendency to repeat itself.”