Coach me … if you can
My Boss Is a Basket Case
I work for a woman who yells, screams, cries, sulks, spits (no kidding) and is generally abusive. She tells me that I am the only person she likes in the organization – we work for the federal government – and, as a result, I’m the only one she’ll give any work to. I went to her supervisor to ask for help and was told to “deal with it.” I am swamped, and my stress level is through the roof, but I’m three years from being able to retire with full benefits. I’m not sure if I can wait that long. What should I do?
– Spat upon in D.C.
Maybe you could start wearing rain gear to the office. Just kidding (kind of). Seriously, your situation sounds awful – but realize that you must be doing something right if you are the only person in the federal government your boss likes. Assess what it is you are doing right and do more of that, while limiting your exposure to your boss’s more abusive side by setting a few boundaries and perhaps not being so available. Accept that your joy may not come from work in the next three years, and, instead, grow opportunities for joy outside your work. When you increase joy in any aspect of your life, you will find joy growing all around you. You can’t change your boss, but you can change your approach to her.