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My Marriage Ended Over Oral Sex
Dear ASK REAL GUYS: My husband cheated on me (having oral sex – which I still consider cheating) with the wife of another couple we were close to. Her appearance nor her character can compare to what I have, but apparently she sucked and swallowed and according to him, this was his only interest. She’s disgustingly fat, older and the complete opposite of what I thought he would look at, not counting her HUGE breasts. The nagging question is — WHY? He ruined our marriage to get free blowjobs because she swallows. I just don’t get it. We are pending divorce proceedings but I need to understand WHY? What is so impressive about swallowing? I might have given it a go, if he asked or even hinted at having interest in it, but he never did. We always had great sex except for this area, clearly.
Avery: What your husband is doing with another woman – or other women – (the actual acts) is not really the issue here. The issue is that he’s seeking sexual gratification outside of your marriage. Since you’re going through divorce proceedings now, and you just want to know why, then you should ask him. There was probably some area of your relationship that he felt was lacking and instead of being a “stand up guy” and talking to you about it, he snuck around with someone else (and someone you both knew, which can be MORE painful!). Sounds like you and your husband weren’t communicating the way you needed to be. Whether you’re more attractive than the other woman or not, the point is that your husband didn’t take the opportunity to talk to YOU about his feelings, before he went out and did something that triggered the end of your marriage.