In Her Words
Politcal battles on the home front
By: Alena Jemas
My fiancé and I see eye to eye on almost every issue. Politics, however, is not one of them.
It’s usually easy to ignore the fact that we are on opposite ends of the political spectrum – we just don’t talk about it and thus live in a happy little bubble of denial.
However, with the upcoming 2008 presidential election and the round-the-clock coverage of the primaries, nary an evening goes by that we don’t settle down to catch the updates with our dinner.
Sometimes that dinner doesn’t get eaten because we’re too busy arguing. He doesn’t understand why I don’t see things his way; and I certainly can’t comprehend why he doesn’t see my very valid, rational explanations.
Once I even went so far as to inform him that I would love our children less if they ended up belonging to his political party. Which, of course, is an outright lie, but I was so frustrated and annoyed that I wanted nothing more than to hurt him. Really hurt him.
Hurt him for what, exactly, is up in the air. Hurt him for being him? Hurt him for having similar values but a different way of seeing them? Hurt him for not sharing every last thought in my head?
I fell in love with all the little pieces of him and one of those pieces just happens to be – politically – the polar opposite of me.
It’s going to be a bumpy road from here to November, and even beyond. However, the next time I want to go for the jugular during a heated discussion about politics, I have to take a deep breath and realize that our differences are what make us unique.
And hey, they also keep things interesting.
Tell us: Would you marry someone whose political views differ from yours?