What Would Debbie Do?
Paying Back My Mother
My mother raised me pretty much by herself, balancing four jobs and at the same time being able to provide everything for me, including vacations, toys, clothes and sending me to the college of my choice. Every day I think about how much she has given me, and I wish I could give back to her. I try to limit my expenses and do well in school (which she pays for), but I wish there was something more I could do for her.
Wow. Now that’s a first.
Usually, I get letters lamenting the difficult relationship that exists between mother and daughter. There have been volumes of books written about the complicated, often tenuous dynamic that exists between women, so I’m thrilled to read about your “dilemma.”
Quite frankly, though, you’ve already solved your problem. The mere fact that you’re so appreciative, so in awe of your mother’s efforts, and are actually looking for yet another way to show it, suggests that you have already given your mother the greatest gift of all. I can’t imagine the pride your mother must feel knowing that her hard work has not gone unnoticed, that her sacrifices have been worth the struggle. It’s the ultimate thank-you. Enough said.