Seven Secrets to Dating Success
You loved this article on dating secrets. It’s time to refresh our memories on seven things that make dating go right!
Amy Andersen knows a thing or two about finding love. Her job kind of depends on it.
Amy is the founder and CEO of Linx Dating – a matchmaking service that connects smart, successful singles in the San Francisco area. After years of playing cupid, she has a few dating secrets hidden in her (slim, stylish) back pocket.
Amy describes Linx as an offline dating network, which means you must unplug before falling in love. It may seem unorthodox, but she boasts more than 700 clients on her roster. These “eligibles” are the crème de la crème – all well-educated, well-established singles (not to mention a few unmentionable celebs). There’s a hefty fee to join – and don’t think you get out easy, ladies – women and men pay the same. How refreshingly equal opportunity!
Although Linx only has offices in Palo Alto and Beverly Hills, Amy’s agreed to share seven secrets for finding love with Betty. (Hint: you may have to move!)
1. Dating = Fun!
“Enter a date as if you’re meeting a really good friend. If you feel that chemistry, then run with those feelings and enjoy that moment, but don’t stress yourself out too much,” Amy coaches. “I think so many people take dating so seriously, they can come off as too serious. Women can just put everything on the table, and as a result it just freaks guys out. When you mention marriage and kids, the guys are going to go running for the hills…. Instead, have fun with it and try to be your authentic self.”
2. Be a Lady in Red
Amy says color counts on dates. “Men love red. It’s the color of passion.” She warns women to stay away from black, grays and military colors, adding that men prefer straight, longer hair worn down. “We get that feedback a lot.”
So ladies, get out those straightening irons. Or wigs.
3. Second Impressions Count
Amy says second dates are a must for her clients. She warns that singles often judge too quickly based on a first date alone.
“It’s like they see one little flaw. ‘He has green eyes and my ideal has blue.’ These tiny little things, in the grand scheme of finding ‘the one,’ are very insignificant. I think it’s important to get to know the person you’re going out with.”
4. Leave Work at Work
Amy works with many clients – both women and men – who are at the top of their careers. But she warns them to leave the office talk in the office.
“Men hate that,” she says. “If they want to talk business, they’ll talk about business in a boardroom. It’s not that they don’t want someone intelligent or savvy, they just want you to represent what’s inside.”
Amy suggests instead, women try to be fun, flirty and knowledgeable about a variety of topics outside their work lives.