The Tipping List
Sex After Baby
Four tips for doin’ the deed with your baby’s daddy
By: Janya Veranth
Here are four tips for keeping the marital romance alive when husband and wife become Mama and Dada:
1. Date your husband! Remember the man you wanted to marry and to be the father of your children? Well, you’ve got him – now date him! Nothing primes the pump for romance like a little rekindling of your love for each other.
Hire a sitter for a night on the town, and go to your favorite restaurant (sit in the bar, where there are no kids). Share a nice bottle of wine and talk about all the “remember whens” of your life together. If an evening date is not possible, have Grandma watch the baby for an afternoon while you share a picnic, go for a stroll or “take a nap” together.
2. Think outside the bedroom. Take your sex life out of the bedroom and strike while the iron is hot! Next time you head for the shower, invite your hubby to join you. Just make sure your kids aren’t old enough to walk in on you.
3. Seize the moment. Remember when you were a teenager and opportunity was everything? If the baby is napping, there’s your chance! Who cares if it’s the middle of the morning? Be creative and remember that time is of the essence.
4. Not in the mood? You may be feeling tired and frumpy now that you are a mom, and sex may be the last thing on your mind. But even if you aren’t feeling sexy, it’s important to nurture your marriage. Start slowly and communicate openly about your new postbaby body. Even if you haven’t lost all the baby weight, sex is a good way to burn more calories. Besides, he’s not noticing those postpartum pounds nearly as much as you are.