Woman to Women
Sexless in Cyberspace
New online community celebrating celibacy
-Mary Beth Sammons
As much as I once harbored dreams of waiting for Prince Charming, love, purity and all of that, I find a Web site where you advertise your celibacy equally as ridiculous as my childhood fantasies. Let me get this right. You’re supposed to tell men (with an online profile/proclamation), that they can’t have it? And expect guys/hunters to cease the chase? Isn’t it more like seize the opportunity? Or you’re the elusive, hard-to-get guy and in a world of women frothing to follow Dr. Phi’s advice and find their match made in heaven online… you are posting your profile saying, “yes, but no you can’t have me?”
Wow, that’s gonna really work well.
Excuse my inner cynic, but June, the month when the birds and bees start officially doing their thing is “National Celebrate Celibacy Month?” And an online community posting pictures and “I’m looking here’s what I want” profiles – MyGenerationPureLife– is supposed to stave off sex?
Ok and many moons ago, maybe my mom was the only one on the block spouting this, but her advice in my young adolescence was something like: “If you want them to keep chasing… just say “no you can’t catch me.” Or something like, the intrigue of a buttoned sweater. So, now, teens, young adults and others who have held on to celibacy are supposed to post profiles and that will head off the hunt. As my Betty colleague Stephanie proclaimed via email: “My initial thought in just scanning the press release is it’s gonna help a lot of celibate people get laid!” Ditto.
In a recent blog on the site, founder Yvette Thomas, who is not new to abstinence promotion having founded the clothing line “WaitWear,” suggests the debut of a new TV show: “Celibate in the City.” She says: “I believe women can have just as much fun (if not more) wearing their Prada, sporting the latest Vera Wang dress while drinking their non-alcoholic cosmos and still remain pure.”
Yep, sex up the clothes, perch yourself at a bar and hand out biz cards with your free profile: “Check me out. I’m celibate.”
That’s pure alright. Purely ridiculous.