ASK REAL GUYS
Sleeping with a Friend
Dear ASK REAL GUYS: I have a really good guy friend who has been friends with me for a little over a year. Although we are not in a relationship, we have been sleeping together behind everyone’s back from the get-go. I enjoy hanging out with him even though it’s mostly about sex these days. He talks to lots of other girls who I am associated with and I cover his back for him at times. I really can’t see myself dating him, as I do not love him, but I do like the sex. I’m wondering why I continue to run around with him when I know that it’s not going anywhere. Can you tell me why I’m still in the picture if he has other girls on the side?
Steven: First of all, it is very important that you talk to him about this. Secondly, it sounds like the relationship you are in with this person is a classic “friends-with-benefits” situation. If this works for you and makes you happy, who am I or anyone else to judge if it is not hurting or affecting anyone else. But, if you are only settling you may want to take a closer look at this “relationship”. Just make sure you live your life in a way that makes you very happy and gets you where you want to go…