The Tipping Point
Ask to Receive
Knowing how to ask for what we want is more important than we think. Author Nora Klaver learned the hard way that learning how to speak up helps you create a stronger sense of self – and have happier, healthier relationships. Wanting to help other woman take the risk, Klaver shares her insights in Mayday! Asking for Help in Times of Need (Berrett-Koelher).
abc7chicago.com reports that Klaver calls it the “anti-self help book,” the perfect antidote to our cluture of “need and isolation.”
Klaver, now 47, was in her late 30s when she needed major surgery. While the procedure scared her, it was the recuperation time that made the fiercely independent consultant cry. “I was worried about actually having to ask someone for help,” she says.
She gritted her teeth and appealed to her boyfriend, Robbie. “I could hear the reluctance in his voice,” she says. “Two days before the surgery, he dumped me.”
The only choice was to turn to her parents for help. She admits that at first she was ungracious and ungrateful. After a few days, she “surrendered control,” she says. “It turned out to be a great week.”
After she recovered, Nora decided she “didn’t want a life without friends she could depend on.” She changed her hangouts, made new friends, and now has people in her life she can count on and ask for help.
Next week: Nora’s tips for asking for what you want.