In Her Words
Stressing over Stress
Do women stress more than men, and how can we stop?
By: Jennifer Canzoneri
This weekend, my husband, Mike and I moved out of our small(ish) duplex into a large(ish) house. Though we were excited and it was long overdue, it did what all big life decisions do to me: it caused stress of unforeseen magnitudes.
Over the course of the last month, through credit checks and the application process, I worried for around 9 million hours (give or take) about this move. I couldn’t stop worrying. What if we don’t get it? What if we get it and one of us loses a job? What it the roof caves in ruining our new (and sparkly!) fridge and killing our dog?
We did get the house, and so far, the roof seems quite sturdy, but I can’t cease with the worrying. What if we mess it up? What if Mike leaves me and I have to pay the heftily increased rent on my own? What if no one comes to our housewarming party?
Mike doesn’t worry about any of these things. He hardly worries at all. He lives by this ridiculous mantra that things just work themselves out. What kind of time he must have to pick up hobbies or play solitaire, since he isn’t consumed with worrying like I am.
I sometimes think it’s gender-based—women just seem to worry more than men. Or maybe it’s genetic. My mom does worry an awful lot, but don’t all moms? I can’t really gauge if my worrying is normal (although I can admit it’s not healthy) or if it’s hindering the life I want. And, what’s more, how do I stop? Or how do I get Mike to pick up the habit, to bear the burden with me? It’s rather irritating to constantly worry about this or that only to have my husband whistle away the time, not a worry on his pretty, red-headed mind.
Tell us: How do you keep the worrying in check and learn to enjoy your life-with as little stress as possible?