Surviving Monogamy: Tips From Your Gay Best Friend

Here's some sound advice from our Gay BFF on how to keep things super spicy in your relationship - even if you've been together for a long time.
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Surviving Monogamy: Tips From Your Gay Best Friend

Congratulations! You did the impossible. You met a guy who’s into you and he fits all of your major criteria: his hands feel great on your shoulders, you love the smell of his hair even when he hasn’t washed it, and you can borrow his clothes because you both wear the same size jeans. Wait, those are my criteria.

Anyway, the point is, you’ve had the big conversation and have both agreed you are blissfully monogamous. Hooray!

But, what do you do to make sure settling down doesn’t mean settling into an emotional stupor?

Here’s my advice…

Go Out, Be Flirtful, And Multiply
Normally, flirting is reserved for the earliest moments of a relationship: those butterfly-inducing looks across a crowded bar,  clever innuendo at a mutual friend’s game night, that first touch as you pretend to be interested in his wristwatch. But, once you become a pair, flirting loses its purpose and quickly goes the way of the payphone.

Read How to Flirt Like a Guy

Don’t let this happen! Flirting is the hard candy of relationships – it’s quick, easy, and always yummy. So what if you know you’re going home with him, just like you have every night for the last three years? You should still give him a lusty glance from afar while at a co-workers boring bar-b-que, or give his butt a glancing pat while in a crowded elevator. Better yet, text him a picture you wouldn’t want posted on the internet (but give it a boring subject line like “What about these end tables?”). Keep the flirting up, be playful, and create little challenges and pranks for your guy – he’ll stay interested for years and years.


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13 thoughts on “Surviving Monogamy: Tips From Your Gay Best Friend

  1. FBNYC says:

    These are some fabulous tips! I especially love the idea of keeping the flirting up throughout the whole relationship!

  2. uptowngirl says:

    Great advice! I think flirting is really important.

  3. lemoned says:

    I think it’s good to flirt with other people while you’re in a relationship. You get the excitement of meeting someone new, which can be a confidence-booster. Then you can take that extra-inflated ego home to your guy, no harm done!

  4. shopaholic says:

    Flirting is fun and harmless!

  5. lovesbetty says:

    I know how to flirt like a pro ;)

  6. Fern says:

    So true that you should take the initiative when you think something’s missing in the relationship. Or the bedroom!

  7. Fashionista says:

    I think the idea of not sharing absolutely everything together is really important, too. If you’re guy doesn’t like to shop, don’t drag him to the mall with you — he will resent you. Bring your gf instead. It’s a good way to keep some mystery in the relationship. When you’re off doing other things with other people, he’ll be wondering what you’re doing.

  8. jessica03 says:

    i agree with Fashionista. and oh yes, flirting is fun fun fun!

  9. CityLady212 says:

    Monogamy = boring eventually

  10. vdub4 says:

    LMAO at the more realistic “Jerry Maguire” line… Great tips Gay BFF… Fantasy is always so much fun to mix things up… I LOVE a little role playing with costumes… :) xo

  11. saxmantf says:

    After 20 years these tips are even more important. We like doing the in-town vacation to get away from the kids.

  12. Flirting is so much fun, gives you this huge adrenaline

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