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Talking Dirty In the Bedroom
Dear ASK REAL GUYS: My husband wants to talk dirty to me during sex as it is a turn on for him, but it’s a complete turn off for me. I have told him this many times outside the bedroom, but he does it anyway, then complains because I am not turned on. The things he says are disgusting and I have no desire to participate. How can I get him to stop the dirty talk?
Steven: Maybe there is some compromise here. I suspect there might be other issues going on in the relationship and with him. Since you have shared with him your thoughts and he continues to do things the way he wants, you might want to look at going to see someone, maybe a sex therapist. I say this not because he is right or wrong but because you both see and want things differently with regards to this. Maybe there is something else going on here that causes this issue and conflict. It is important that you get this handled before the resentment grows stronger and causes bigger issues and conflicts that could bleed over into other areas.