The 10 Warning Signs of Infidelity
Marriage coach Jacqueline Del Rosario tells us what to look out for if you think your partner is cheating.
We’ve all been there. You’re blissfully rolling along in your relationship and bam! Your partner has not only found someone else, they started dating awhile ago… while you were involved with your now ex. How do you make sure you’re not blindsided? And why does it hurt so much?
“Even before physical cheating comes emotional cheating—the sharing and divulging intimate details of our lives with someone other than our spouse,” said “America’s Marriage Coach” Jacqueline Del Rosario. “Such emotional cheating often serves as the gateway to physical infidelity; once you begin to share how you feel, your dreams and inspirations with another person, it is only a matter of time before that ends in the bed. You are creating a bond with that person on an emotional level, and that emotional tie all too often escalates into an inappropriate physical connection.”
Here are Dr. Del Rosario’ss 10 classic warning signs that your partner may, in fact, be cheating emotionally, physically or both on you.
1. Sudden changes in schedule or chronically cancelling plans.
For example, you and your mate routinely have dinner every Thursday night at your favorite restaurant, but lately your partner has been cancelling and coming up with a number of different excuses.
2. Starts fights and makes accusatory statements more often.
You notice your mate is more on edge and starts fights more often. This also might include suddenly accusing you of cheating. This could be a guilty conscience at play. A quick anger trigger, getting easily exasperated, and “picking fights” more frequently are other classic clues something is amiss, as these actions create distance for freedom to come and go as they please. It also provides a backdrop for an actual breakup to gain permanent freedom from the relationship.
3. Being emotionally withdrawn.
It’s never a good sign when it takes effort to make even basic conversation with your mate, and also when your partner no longer asks for more in-depth details about things going on in your life—career, family, friends, hobbies and otherwise. This broad-sweeping disinterest can speak volumes.
4. Constant texting or using other virtual modalities.
You notice your mate is constantly on, or checking, the phone or computer, at all hours of the day and night. You may also have discovered your mate has joined new social networks without telling you.
5. Being secretive with the phone.
Every time the phone rings your companion goes to another room to take the call. Or you notice the immediate deleting of emails and text messages and keeping the phone face down at all times.
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