In Her Words
How a few words can hurt
By: Claire Russell
I searched for months for the perfect dress to wear to my brother’s wedding. I bought three that were okay, before I found “the one.”
It was lovely, perfect and tangerine in color. Besides my wedding dress, it’s the nicest dress I’ve ever owned, and the price tag reflected it. I deemed it worth every penny for the special occasion, and after all, wedding pictures are immortalized forever.
I got lots of compliments that night and felt good about my choice as I caught my reflection in many mirrors. I felt light and airy as the silk swirled around my legs and skimmed my body.
Then my mother abruptly pulled me down from my couture high.
I complimented her outfit, and she almost reciprocated, “Yours looks
so comfortable,” she said instead.
I’m sure it was too revealing, too short, too something for her, so she threw out comfortable. What do you do with that? I know her well enough to know it was a veiled criticism of some sort. My husband was just glad that it wasn’t his mother who made the comment to me.
I hate how I can be crushed by one small word or the absence of others – that weeks later I can still be stewing and analyzing a small exchange. But I repeatedly find myself doing so as I go through life. I know words can’t hurt me unless I let them, but how do I not?
Tell us: How do you handle hurtful words from others?