Why Every Woman Needs a Girlfriend
Having a girlfriend is just as important as, well, having a boyfriend!
-Johanna Lyman, Divine Caroline
The other day I told my husband that I was really excited to see my best friend again. We live far apart and only get to see each other once a year. He responded with a hurt look, saying, “I thought I was your best friend!” To which I replied, “No, you’re my husband. I still need my girlfriend.”
This is one of the key dynamics that can really mess up a long-term relationship. Expecting your partner to fulfill all of your emotional needs sets you both up for disappointment. Every woman needs a girlfriend and every man needs a bromance.
I’m not saying that your partner can’t be one of your best friends—just that they shouldn’t be your only best friend. You both need and deserve to have time out with other people on a regular basis. You need a different perspective; someone to bounce ideas off, and someone who will listen to you complain when (even if it’s rare) your partner’s being a jerk.
Having a close, emotionally intimate relationship with another person helps you become a better partner in your romantic relationship. You practice listening, being supportive and nonjudgmental, and you have the opportunity to express your own ideas, visions, and dreams. All these skills are necessary for a successful romantic relationship, and they are sometimes easier to develop with someone you’re not sleeping with.