Woman to Women
InSPAration for the perfect gift
Tomorrow is my birthday, and my husband has been feeling terrible. He overscheduled himself at work and won’t be around to help me celebrate. He has asked what he could buy for me: “Is there anything you want?” he said. Every year we go through this dance, and I try to think of something I don’t own that I would really like. Every year it’s the same; I can never come up with anything.
The reason I can never come up with anything is that there is nothing that I wouldn’t buy myself — within reason, of course. If he drove up in my dream Touareg and I could toss my Odyssey, well, all bets would be off! But for practicality reasons, including our three children and the impending recession, that will never happen. My husband is not a romantic man, so we have come to the understanding to never expect the unexpected.
Well, this evening, things changed. I told my husband that there was something that I wanted: peace and quiet! I snuck upstairs, locked the doors to the bedroom, and then filled the soaking tub with what felt like the best bubble bath ever! I lavishly applied my favorite mud mask, rested my neck upon a lush pillow and sunk in chin-deep. As I relished in the private moments to myself, a little Michael Buble played in the background. For the first time in a long time, I felt completely and totally relaxed.
I remember my aunt Renee always saying she didn’t want her husband or kids to purchase gifts for her. All she wanted was someone to grind coffee and have it freshly brewed for her when she awoke in the morning. As a teen, I couldn’t understand. I had a never-ending list of things I wanted for my birthday. My aunt’s words finally made sense to me today. The best gift is not always the one that’s purchased. Sometimes the best gifts are those that allow us to enjoy the simple things that make life special.
Jill Coury is a married mother of three who lives the suburban dream: carpools, volunteer work and loads of dirty laundry! Please visit her at www.jillcoury.com.